One to challenge you...

"When does gold ore become gold? When it is put through a process of fire. So the human being during the training becomes as pure as gold through suffering. It is the burning away of the dross. Suffering has a great redeeming quality. As a drop of water failing on the desert sand is sucked up immediately, so we must become nothing and nowhere ... we must disappear."

~Bhai Sahib, from 'Travelling the Path of Love', Ed. Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee